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The Final Update: Our Wedding Details

I can hardly contain my excitement as I type this! This is the final post of wedding updates. The days have seemed to pass so slow, but now that we are in the final stretch its like it was here in no time. As you’re reading this, my fiance and I are boarding the plane to….. LAS VEGAS! Yes, we are going to get married in Las Vegas, Nevada. Like I’ve been trying to get across for a while, we are everything BUT traditional. Backstory? A few years ago when we were kind of discussing the topic of marriage, we both decided that we thought it would be the coolest thing to get married in Vegas. And I’m not talking your typical courthouse marriage ceremony, or fancy hotel wedding ceremony. I’m talking drive thru, Elvis as the minister, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, type of “ceremony”.

We will arrive in Vegas around 11 am. From the airport, we will be checking into our room at Encore at the Wynn Las Vegas. We picked this room and hotel in particular for its luxurious amenities and room style which there will be a review of on my YouTube channel here. We took our time and combed through some of the most popular and highest rated rooms before we came to our decision. While there we will relax and prepare to change into our wedding attire and later head out to pick up our marriage licence. The cool thing about Vegas is that their marriage bureau stays open till 12 am! So those movies where people just up and get married…. are totally TRUE!

At about 5 pm we will be wed at the Sweetheart Wedding Chapel & Bridal Boutique. We loved their intimate setting, and it made better sense since it was going to just be the two of us. We opted for their sign and go package which is literally what it sounds like. We will be signing our licence with a minister, have our wedding photo session, and then off to our first dinner as a married couple! My fiance made the reservations himself and I BEGGED to not be involved because I’d like a surprise for the restaurant choice.

The night before our wedding day, we will have our own small ceremony to read our handwritten vows to one another and to just bask in the fact that we will be getting married in a few hours.

To keep our family and friends updated on our special day we created our own wedding website on Honeyfund. Our website gives our fam and friends the opportunity to not only be updated by us but gives them options to send gifts. We have been living together for 3 years and have accumulated all of our necessities so we were asking for monetary gift options or gift cards. If you’d like to contribute or even sign our wedding guestbook, feel free to visit our personalized sight HERE!

We will be vlogging our entire trip and of course giving BTS of traveling and other activities we have planned, so please be sure to follow me on social media and of course subscribe to my YouTube channel HERE.

Thank you all so much for your support and encouragement. I cant wait for this new chapter in our lives, and I can’t wait to share that chapter with you guys as well!

Love always

xo

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5 Bad Pieces of Advice I’ve Gotten Since Being Engaged and My Thoughts on Them

I tweeted about how I had gotten some pretty wild advice since I have been engaged and the responses were super unanimous that I NEEDED to blog about it! SO here we are! Today I’m sharing with you all the 5 WORST bits of advice I’ve gotten since being engaged. I also thought I’d give you all a little insight of how I took this advice as well!

  1. “Enjoy yourself while you’re still technically single” – I mean what exactly does this even mean??? I’m in a committed relationship LOL what is it expected that I “enjoy” before we head down the aisle?
  2. “Never speak negatively about your husband” – This is one that can low key be great advice as well, but it all comes down to the context of how its given. I would absolutely NEVER speak down on Reece to just whoever. BUT, I think it is very important to be an open book to your spouse. I let him know when I feel a way about him, and he doesn’t hesitate to let me know about myself. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
  3. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”- Honestly do I need to elaborate? Who recommends SPACE to a married couple? Separation in relationships is hard no matter the reason. and I’m not talking about “Me time” This lady recommended me getting a hotel room to myself once a month for space away from my husband like…. whattttt???
  4. ” Marriage will be easy if you really love each other”- First of all sis…. relationships in general are not easy. Two people coming together as one will NOT be easy. Just how you may have disagreements in your relationship you’ll have them in marriage. This personally made me raise a brow cause sis I wouldn’t dare equate the love in my relationship to the disagreements. You’ll disagree, talk about it, forgive if you must, and move on. I never let our disagreements change my mind about how much Reece loves me… that’s silly talk.
  5. “Always put the kids first” – At first glance i know ya’ll are probably like “Oh, see now you lost me” But hear me out. I LOVE my kids. I will always sacrifice when I have to and do what is best for them. But when they turn whatever age, and move out who’s left? I’m just saying…. I plan to prioritize my marriage. The kids for one, learn their life lessons from watching their first teachers, Reece and I. In order to be of good example what better way to show them love, respect, loyalty, how to communicate, how to solve problems and more than showing them though our interactions with each other!

Overall, I’ve actually gotten so much love and great advice from married couples. I’ll  share the good advice after we are married.

What is the worst marriage or relationship advice you’ve ever gotten?

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The Halloween Tag

With Halloween literally around the corner, I thought what better post to work up than the Halloween tag!

Lets hop in!

  1. Favorite horror or Halloween themed song?

The Michael Myers theme is my absolute fave!

2. Have you ever played with a Ouji board?

ABSOLUTELY NOT!

3. Are you superstitious?

Not at all.

4. If you were dared to spend the night in a “haunted house” would you?

I probably would… if I wasn’t the only one staying LOL

5. Would you ever go to a graveyard at night?

Yup, there’s literally nothing scary about cemeteries to me

6. Would you rather go to a Halloween party or go trick or treating?

I’d much rather be trick or treating collecting candy with my little ones

7. Do you ever have to watch something happy after watching a horror movie so you can go to sleep?

Occasionally I do but It’s been a long time since I’ve seen a movie that frightening!

8. Watching scary movies, are you the person yelling at the characters, the person with their eyes covered the whole time or the person who falls asleep?

I’m for sure the person talking to the screen trying to figure out the movie as it plays out with the characters.

9. Do you scare easily?

Not really, but I can be kinda jumpy if I’m over thinking

10. If you could only wear one Halloween costume for the rest of your life, what would you be?

Id probably be a vampire LOL they are my favorite “scary” creatures

11. Are you the one who gets scared or the one who does the scaring?

I’m probably the one who gets scared lol

12. In a zombie apocalypse what would be your weapon of choice?

A gun for sure if i was an accurate shot! But maybe a bat?

These tags are always so much fun to do and share! What are some spooky things you’re interested in? Let me know below!

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Why I Polish My Sons Nails and Could Care Less About Peoples Thoughts About It

Every moms dream when they have a daughter is cute dress-ups and polishing nails and tea parties. Well, at least those were my dreams when I was pregnant with my daughter over 6 years ago. Fast forward to today, having a son and daughter, I found that my daughter and I’s nail dates are impossible to have without Nugget wanting to join in too. I started painting my sons nails when he was about 1 1/2. The backlash I received from family and complete strangers was CRAZY! Who knew simply putting polish on my own kids nails could be so controversial.

So today I’m gonna share exactly why I polish my sons nails, and why I honestly DGAF about any ones opinions on it.

Anyone with more than one kid will tell you, it’s so important to spend one on one time with your kids. Kay and I,  have always spent one on one time at Nuggets nap time and when we’re just able to have a girls day while my Fiance has boys day with our son. But during the day there are sometimes when we have a few down minutes we find something to do just the two of us. This was typically when Kay would grab her polish bag and we’d just polish our nails and hang out. With Nugget on the loose it wasn’t as easy. He of course wanted to be involved. He’d come over and be so excited about the “pretty colors” as he calls them. Then one day he asked if I could do his as well. And to me I found it harmless so I polished his toes for the very first time. He picked out a dark purple polish and was ecstatic!

That entire week he was so proud of his toes! He picked out his sandals and showed them off to any and everyone who would look! Most of the responses were honestly terrible. He was so happy to have his toes polished in a color he knew and could tell you exactly what color he was wearing and everything. And, people would literally look at me with such disgust. I never understood why. Then, someone basically just said it.

I shouldn’t be painting my sons nails because hes a boy.

For me, that was the very last thing on my mind. His happiness was all I thought about that day I polished his nails. He was so proud to pick out his color and wait to dry… my last thought was that as a boy I shouldn’t polish his nails.

So now when he asks, I’m even more proud to polish his nails. I hate that society is so warped that I can’t simply do something that makes my son happy just because he’ll be viewed as gay or that I’m actively “turning him gay” simply by polishing his nails. To be extremely clear, I LOVE MY KIDS. No matter what their sexual orientations turn out to be or whatever, I’ll love and support them regardless. In no way does polishing my sons nails determine who he will be in the future and the fact others really think that….is mind boggling.

Nail polish will wear off, be removed, or be completely forgotten about. There is no permanent impact from me polishing his nails. The way his face lights up when he brings me a polish or when he has polish on his toes is way more important to me than peoples rude opinion based on something so temporary.

What are some things you’ve been judged about as a parent?

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September Review

Happy October my loves! I wanted to start back blogging and get back to creating so I thought that a perfect post to start back with is a mini glimpse into the past months highs and lows.

To kick the month off the kids got to spend some time at our local fair with my cousin! Love the smiles after face paint fun.

This was also the big kick off before our first day of school and homeschooling! I have a blog of our first week here, and a vlog of our first day here on my YouTube channel.

We enjoyed a few days of the great transitional weather.

We celebrated my aunt Rozs’ retirement with the fam.

September was also very emotional for me, having recently lost my dad its been a difficult month as far as my concentration and just overall self care. I’m working on getting back into my routines and new norm.

As far as wedding plans, you can read my most recent update here. We have everything set for the big day and just have to still purchase some little last minute details.

Overall September was awesome. There were so many memorable fun moments, as well as raw and emotion filled days, but over all I still feel blessed to have this amazing life with my loved ones. The upcoming month brings my moms birthday, fun fall activities for the kids, as well as the final countdown to our wedding. The best is yet to come!

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Wedding Update #1 | From Miss. to Mrs.

In exactly 41 days I’ll become Mrs. Holman! The excitement that is building up inside of me simply can’t be contained anymore! I haven’t updated on my wedding often, mostly because the process to elope for us isn’t as detailed as a traditional wedding, but all the feels are the same. We have our date which is November 8, 2018. I have my dress (unless I change my mind) and Reece has his suit. There have been a few changes as far as the venue. The original plan, has been ditched and we have now booked everything for our special day. We plan to keep the location and specifics to ourselves and close family until day of or just closer to our date.

We had agreed on the colors red, black and probably silver as an accent color. Well you can probably guess that that has also changed haha! I do not plan to wear a traditional dress. But I definitely ended up keeping the tradition to wear white. I decided to get a sew in to protect my natural hair while on our honeymoon. After the wedding we will be enjoying our honeymoon, again location will be disclosed later.

Planning a wedding is honestly so tiring. Probably another reason I knew I didn’t want a huge blowout. If you know me you know I’m a hopeless romantic. I’d marry my fiance in the middle of no where with no one there if it came down to it. Our love is what brought us to where we are today…well that and God….so to me, the only important thing is that he and God are present so I can profess my love for him to him and the Man above.

As our day gets closer, surprisingly my nerves slowly drift away as well. I absolutely cannot wait to spend the rest of my life raising babies, exploring, and loving my very best friend. I couldn’t imagine this life with anyone else.

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My experience as an ItWorks Distributor

Hey babes! So today I’m finally writing this post that has been long overdue. I was unsure on how to approach writing this post so I decided to start with a disclaimer.

The information in this post is what was given/taught to me. It is strictly my own experience as that’s all I can speak on. Other people have other experiences. This is mine. This post isn’t to bash any one or brand, but to share my experience.

Now that we have that out of the way lets jump in!

The Beginning

I, like many other people, have been bombarded with direct marketing recruitment pretty much since the beginning of having social media. I typically would just block whoever and move about my day. Lets start my experience at about 3-4 years ago. That was my first time having a personal relationship with someone who participated in direct marketing. My fiance’s coworker has her own business with the company itWorks. For quiet sometime she’d ask my fiance and I about trying some of her products or me actually becoming a distributor and I’ll be honest, we were not interested AT ALL. I have had my own thoughts on direct marketing which include:

  1. I’ts a scam
  2. The recruiters are typically super annoying and very invasive

I’ve always come across people in the blogging community that have direct sales side bizzes and I’m honestly amazed by how many people I see rocking it! After having several conversations with my fiance on what to do as far as the constant itWorks conversations between ourselves and his coworker I took it upon myself to reach out to a few bloggers I had already on my Instagram to ask them for their experiences as far as the products as well as actually being a distributor. Everyone was super sweet of course, but something I picked up on right away was feeling like they weren’t REALLY answering my questions. Everyone I reached out to made it seem like they were holding on to the Krabby Patty formula! I kind of understood at first, seeing as though this is their BUSINESS I know no one wants to go around giving out free access to how they are making their income…i guess. I just felt like asking what their thoughts are on their company NOW as apposed to when they started wasn’t asking for much.

After getting seriously little to no information I decided to try the products. The first thing that I found super off about the company? You have to buy  for three consecutive months to get the lifetime “discount”. I still can’t wrap my mind why I’d have to buy something 3 months in a row that I don’t know if I’ll like, don’t know if i’ll have a reaction to just don’t know anything about. While yes you can switch out the products every month, what if you only had interest in one product and it didn’t work out for you? Well you’ll be automatically charged for the product and if you cancel your 3 month subscription? You’ll be charged the price of the product PLUS a $50 fee! Like WHAT?! The next thing that didn’t add up? The lifetime discount. 

I was mainly interested in the HSN (hair skin and nail vitamins) especially since I had just big chopped my hair for hopefully the last time, so that was what I wanted to try as my first product. The vitamins are $33 for one month of product using the lifetime discount. When you purchase from ItWorks, you have to sign up for the 3 months OR pay a $50 membership fee for automatic lifetime discount. I mean you can see where I’m going with this right? $33×3. $99+ for three months of hair vitamins I may not even like!! It was automatically a no go for me. The HSN is $55 WITHOUT the membership! Do you see where I’m going?! It’s insane!!! I was taking a $10 vitamin from Walmart and was honestly doing just fine.

My fiancé’s coworker would check in to see if I was still interested and I was so turned off by the price I just couldn’t bare to tell her that. So when ItWorks was having a sale for the HSN I went ahead and made my first purchase. Shipping was pretty fast, it was nicely packaged for shipment so I was super excited. The first month using HSN my hair grew a little over an inch which was nice. And it helped with my postpartum hair thinning.

So let’s fast forward to the second month. At this point I was automatically charged the $33 as I signed up as apart of the 3 month challenge to avoid the $50 charge. At this point I was interested in the business part only because as a SAHM any extra income is definitely a plus. So I signed as a distributor.

The process for signing up is simple. I was super excited to be doing something that could potentially add a little extra income to our household. It’s $99 + for the distributor kit which at the time included a package of their infamous wraps which are $99 without the discount and $59 with the discount, mini defining gel samples, fab wrap( which only holds the wraps in place), and a ton of marketing flyers. You also got the first month of your website for free($20 after the first month)!

What wasn’t disclosed prior to me signing up, was what exactly I had to do.

The Fees

So as I mentioned before, the website was $20 a month. Not bad but it’s not a customized website. It just simply has your name on it. In order to see any income, you have to sell $150 worth of products OR run an autoship of 80 bv (essentially $100 worth of products a month). If you know me, you know I don’t just spend spend spend. If I need it or I know I’ll be using it I’ll purchase.

The Work

My “training” was included in my website it seemed good but didn’t describe in enough detail TO ME what I was supposed to be doing. My team met via Zoom a digital conference and basically I was told to send out x amount of messages to all of my family and friends asking them to support. For one my family wouldn’t be interested and I knew that and friends?! I have two. And they did support which I’m super grateful for. The next steps were to add x amount of people daily on social media, send them x amount of messages and keep “checking up” on wether they were going to purchase or not. The same thing I was SO annoyed about with direct marketing was what I was supposed to be doing. I did at first. But after about a week I was getting annoyed with myself. I reached out to my ” team” to ask for better strategies on reaching clients but they only told me to continue what I was doing. Which to me didn’t make sense. It’s not me. I’m not the type of person to bombard you with messages. I’m just not.

So I stopped. I didn’t attend the “meetings ” I didn’t message people I just didn’t. I tried to reach out to other bloggers who I thought would help me but just as before they were tight lipped and didn’t want to help because I wasn’t “under” them. There’s a rank system and because I wasn’t apart of their team people would literally delete me, unlike my pictures, and block me. Yes you read that right. I’ve always supported people in direct sales by liking their pictures and supporting their content because I like to. I like to genuinely show support. But I was learning fast that once you’re apart of the business people only see you as competition. I was seriously confused and upset over how many people I’ve supported over time that we’re just deleting and blocking me over the fact I wasn’t on their team.

The End

I slowly started showing the ItWorks products less and less and eventually stopped using them all together. Over the months I had spent roughly $500 and only saw maybe $100 income. In my personal opinion it just wasn’t worth it. And to top that off, it left such an ugly taste in my mouth that I joined something to Conner with other moms in the business just for people to not even attempt to be nice to me. I felt used as well as when I made my concerns known to my “team” letting them know I was done I didn’t get the same feeling anymore. It went from them messaging me daily to see how I was and my family to no communication almost at all. So I distanced myself. I deleted a lot of people and cleared what I felt was toxic energy.

While many people have great experiences with the company I wasn’t one of them. And I don’t foresee myself trying to build my business again but if I do I’ll definitely contain myself. I don’t want that same energy around me this time.

Have you tried any ItWorks products? What was your experience?

Till next time! 💜

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