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Diary Entry #2: I’m Doing my Thing

For just about my entire middle and high school career I was so sure that I wanted to be between a veterinarian or a hairdresser. I shadowed a veterinarian and loved every minute, but realistically I know I wouldn’t be able to handle the hard stuff. Having to tell someone that we needed to put their fur baby down or having an animal come in that simply didn’t survive whatever procedures needed would literally kill me! I’m a huge softy and animals for sure have my heart. That left me with becoming a hairstylist and of course one day owning my own hair salon.

I worked hard through my pregnancy with my daughter to finish cosmetology school and went on to earn my cosmetology license! I thought for sure that was the start of what I’d be doing for forever. My first actual salon job killed that dream for me. Working in the field and being in school was so different. People were mean. And as someone who wears my feelings on my sleeves I kinda decided if that was for me I’d get used to it with time. I came home everyday upset. I hated doing hair. So I packed up my hairstylist dreams and tried to figure out what my “thing” was.

It seems like everyone has a “thing” some people are great with people, others great with children, making sales, being super creative, the list can go on and on. But, I always wondered what my “thing” is. What is it that I’m meant to do. What is my passion ? I shared in a blog post earlier about finding my passion as a stay at home mom , and that post still stands. I wanted to come today and solidify for anyone that doesn’t have a thing. That you are more than likely doing your thing.

I had a conversation today, that sparked this post with a homeschool mom I met at the park. And what she said was so simple but it’s just stuck with me.

“… I came to a place where working and homemaking was crashing together. I needed to either be home, with my children or be in the workplace. My family was more important than any paycheck and we are doing better than ever.”

I’ve struggled with my decision to be a stay at home mom for a very long time. I have felt useless, overwhelmed, and stressed out. But I’ve also felt accomplished, loved, and true happiness. I’ve tried to start businesses and other side jobs in an attempt to earn a little something to help contribute, but in all honesty they’ve all been a bust. I’ll speak more on my experience with ItWorks in another post. When I divide my focus up too much I fall behind with housework I start feeling like I’m neglecting my children and it shouldn’t be like that.

With this being our first year of homeschooling I’m taking the time to focus, to plan ahead for a change, to make myself a priority, and to focus on my passion projects whatever they may be. This blog and my YouTube channel are projects I’ve tried to dive head first into instead of taking the time to develop a plan and an actual focus for them.

This is my “thing”. Well for now anyhow. Right now my heart is invested into my children, myself, my fiancé, and my passion projects.

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My Journey: Finding Purpose as a Stay At Home Mom

Being a mom isn’t easy. Being a stay at home mom I’ve watched as my friends went on to accomplish huge goals at their jobs, picked perfect daycares and so much more. I went through a season of feeling like I had no purpose because I had chosen the stay at home mom life over going to get a standard job. What I soon learned, was that being a mother/homemaker can be a purpose!

All of my life I was determined I didn’t want children. I wanted to be responsibility free for as long as I could! Then I had my daughter. Life changed instantly. I was now responsible for another little human. I wish I could tell you I was devastated, but I wasn’t. It was like my motherhood instincts had been inside me all those years I swore I didn’t want children. It wasn’t easy of course, but I did it. I was a full time working mom, and hated almost every second of it. While I loved the income (duh, treat yo $elf) , constantly meeting new people, and having a scheduled life… I missed my baby. I was fortunate enough to not have to put her in daycare and have my work schedule flexible enough to have my mom or dad watch her while I was working, I felt like I was missing out. That’s when the (then very small) voice started to whisper that I did long to be a stay at home mom at some time in the future.

Fast forward a few years, I found myself pregnant with my son and dreading every second of working. My fiancé (I think) could tell I was unhappy and suggested me staying home “for a while” after I had our son. I was ecstatic of course! But slowly that excitement turned into boredom and even loathing the fact that he went out everyday and I didn’t. I decided I needed a hobby or something I could love for myself hence my first serious blog and YouTube channel was born!

Finding the mom vloggers/bloggers was what set a lightbulb off in my brain. I was unhappy because I didn’t feel like I had a purpose and all I was doing was staying home with my kids. I quickly saw through other moms that had been in my same shoes, that being a stay at home mom can be a purpose!

I keep my children safe, fed, active, educated, I clean, cook and this is only the tip of the iceberg! My children bring me my confidence. Who knows them better than me? NO ONE. Being a stay at home mom is hard. No privacy, no food or drink to yourself, your entire day revolves around your children and sometimes you have to literally schedule in self care but would I trade this for any other life? Not at all.

My children helped me find my passion. They are what drives me day after day. They ARE my passion. I was made for motherhood. While I’m not perfect and neither are my children (I think otherwise obviously LOL), I wake up everyday with the goal to be the best mother and homemaker I can be. And it shows in my children that I am an active influence on them and their lives. I’m forever grateful for the opportunity to learn from my little ones day in and day out. So if you find yourself feeling like “I’m just a mother” “what am I even good at?” Know you being a mother taking care of your children day in and day out is HUGE. Being a mother is the hardest job on this planet. You are amazing!

Have you dealt with feeling like less than because you’re a mom? What did you do about it?

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